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About Me

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I am a bereaved mother and wife. I began this blog to help me look for the "good things" in life after my daughter, "Babybear", died in July 2005. Three years later, her daddy, my husband, "Bear", died in November 2008. (You'll find a link to their stories on my blog) And now, as difficult as it is, I continue to look for the good things in my life as I learn my new normal with my pup, "Furrybear", at my side. And the angels on my shoulder...

Monday, March 9, 2009

Thank You Blog Buddies



I had a very difficult day. When you are a bereaved parent or spouse, and in my case both, the littlest things set you off. I was already in a very, very, VERY lousy mood when I received the email from aforementioned person.

In my post, I had linked to their post, and this upset them. To my understanding, they were upset not because I linked to them, but because they felt the comments in response to my blog post were negative. I did not get that impression, but it upset me that they were upset. I have since removed the post.

Lately, it seems that I have been doing a good job at upsetting people. I don't even realize I am doing so, and it upsets me so much to think that I'm upsetting other people.

I have spent the bulk of the day in tears, not just because of this post, but because of other frustrations I am having with other aspects of my life.

And so, my dear blog buddies, I would like to thank you for standing by me through this difficult time. It means the world to me that you are willing to stand up for me and be there for me even amid my mood swings.

I have attempted to keep this blog as positive as possible, but every now and then the sad and depressed me comes poking through and, sadly, that is just a part of who I am.

Thank you for understanding, and we shall return to regular blogging program for your viewing pleasure.

14 comments:

Vickie said...

Ter,
I am glad you decided to stay:) I can't believe some one would go and upset you like that.

In the past week I have read through your blog and nothing upset me? Yes, some sadness, but that is to be expected. I didn't read that particular post, but if it is anything like the other stuff here, then I don't understand what was up with that person.

I hope your spirits pick up a bit.

Go hug Emma:)

{{Hugs}}

Shea said...

I think everyone would understand if you are negative now and then. Hell, I get negative over the littlest things, so you are much better than me. I'm glad you decided to stay.

Mrs Cooper said...

Glad to see you sticking around and practicing Freedom of Speech.

Laurie in Ca. said...

Hey Ter,

I am so glad you are staying and sharing your ups and downs with us. I see nothing negative about honesty. It is real, it hurts, it laughs, it's life. I am glad I found you again and I am here to cheer you through. Have a great day.

Love and Hugs, Laurie

*Just Jen* said...

I'm happy that you decided against giving up blogging. You shouldn't have to feel as if this blog HAS to be positive. Again, YOUR blog, you do whatever it is that you want with it. When I lost my baby almost four years ago, I joined an online blog community for women who had miscarried. And BELIEVE ME, there were VERY few days that I could blog about anything positive! Be sad, be mad, be YOU. We love you for YOU no matter the mood!

*HUGS*

Khadra said...

I missed what happened, but I just wanted to say that I think it is understandable that you arent always in a positive mood. You are human and have had a lot happen in your life. Go easy on yourself.

Sarah C. said...

Glad you decided to stick with this. :) Obviously - there are a lot of us that enjoy your blog. You are honest. And that means including the bad with the good. Don't ever be ashamed of that. ((HUGS))

BTW, I love the new background with the bird. :)

crystal wolf said...

I don't know what happened, but I'm glad you didn't give it up.
Hugs, Crystal

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

Ter... glad to hear you are staying with us! Don't know what happened. But I've only read positive, true, honest posts from you. Besides, it's YOUR blog. Keep the posts coming! Happy, sad, real, pretend.... I like them all!

Yaya said...

Just be YOU and we'll love you for it!

(((Hugs)))

Sarah said...

this is your blog and you choose what you write and don't write. no one else chooses that.
you have every single right in the world to be upset and depressed. hell, people that haven't been through anything like you have are like that.
screw people who don't get it. that is their problem for not opening up their eyes and understand the hell you have been through with the death of not only your daughter, but your husband.
your blog is great t!!! you do a lot of fun stuff and include others in a great way. in fact, i think yours is way more positive than mine most of the time!!!!!

blueviolet said...

I don't think there's anything wrong with you expressing emotions, whether they're upbeat or sad. You of all people are entitled to have bad days and that's part of the grieving and healing process. It's completely normal, expected and necessary. :)

Why Do We Even Have That Lever? said...

Wow, You didn't tell me about that. Now, let me tell you a little story.

I read a report a while back about people in Alberta and their perceptions of others. Not only did they percieve people in line in a grocery store who used coupons to be cheap, they also perceived people in the SAME line as being cheap as well, even if they WEREN'T using coupons!!!

I think this blog person must be from Alberta. They must have thought that if comments on your blog were negative that it means those comments would somehow filter across the interweb and affect their blog as well. Maybe rightly so.

However, have a little heart!

you never mentioned any of this on Monday, must have happened in the evening or over the weekend.

Smile, we invade tomorrow.

Joc(e) said...

If anyone should KEEP their blog forever and ever and entertain us constantly, it's you!! :-D (((HUGS)))