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I am a bereaved mother and wife. I began this blog to help me look for the "good things" in life after my daughter, "Babybear", died in July 2005. Three years later, her daddy, my husband, "Bear", died in November 2008. (You'll find a link to their stories on my blog) And now, as difficult as it is, I continue to look for the good things in my life as I learn my new normal with my pup, "Furrybear", at my side. And the angels on my shoulder...

Friday, December 25, 2009

Special Handling Please ( A Christmas Poem for the Bereaved)


I was handed a package the other day.
It was wrapped securely to be mailed away
Attached to the outside as plain as could be
Was a simple note for all to see.

Please rush through the holiday season;
Too painful to open for any reason.
Contained within, find one broken heart-
Fragile, broken, falling apart.

Tried to go shopping the other day;
The hype of the season blew me away.

Sat down to write cards,
That was insane.
Couldn't find the list
Or think of my name.

People say,
"Come over, be of good cheer."
"Celebrate the holidays,
Prepare a New Year."

But my grief overwhelms me
Like waves in the sea.
Can they cope with my crying,
an unsettled me?

I don't have any holiday cheer.
Decorations, traditions, big family meal
I can't do this year.
Do you know how I feel?

Guilty and frustrated!
I've let everyone down!
Our holiday celebrations
used to be the best in town.

So just ship me away
Address unknown
When my grief is better
I might fly home.

written by: Mary J. Pinkava


Brenda Susan said...

Thanks for posting this. My good friend's 31 yr old daughter unexpectedly 6 months ago & she is on my mind so much this season. Bless you sweetheart, may you sense some peace even in the middle of everyone elses joyful craziness.

Brenda Susan said...

Hi Ter, Actually I have been following you for a long time so don't remember how I found you. I pray that this next year will be your best yet & your healing continues to make you the strong woman you are.

Kristina P. said...

Ter I am thinking of you today. I wish you a peaceful holiday.

MemeGRL said...

Thanks for posting this. The year my dad died (in February) my mother and I did fly away--we went to California for Christmas for something completely different...we just couldn't handle the holidays at home. That's some good wisdom there.
And we learned today of a friend of my husband's who passed away completely unexpectedly--last night. His poor kids--one of whom will never remember him--will never have a normal Christmas again and I will share this with them.
Hang in there.

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Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

I've been thinking about you today, hoping that you are doing okay...

Michelle said...

Beautifully written.

ChaneyM said...

I remember feeling that way in... 2007, 2008, 2009 is better... 2010 anyone?

Jenners said...

I'm going to forward this to my mom ... she was kind of betwixt and between about the holidays. At one point, she was going to just skip them but then decided to do just the parts she liked. This just spoke so much about how this time feels to those who are bereaved.