When Scribbit asked us to write using the theme "My life is different because...." I immediately knew the story I would tell. Here it is:
The first half of 2005 was undoubtably the best time of my life. I became pregnant with my first child. Bear and I had been married for nearly two years and we were extremely excited to start our family.
Our joy quickly turned to sorrow after our Babybear passed away at 26 weeks gestation due to complications of pre-eclampsia. To hold your lifeless child in your arms is indescribable. No parent should ever have to endure such a tragic event. Unfortunately, far too many do.
To say my life is now different is an understatement. Not only has "the rest of my life" changed, but the person who I was is no longer. However, I can say with confidence, that the person who I am now is a better person. I am a mom, "With An Angel on My Shoulder".
My daughter in life and in death has taught me so much about the world, about life and love, about family and friendship and above all, about myself.
In the months since my daughter passed away, I have met many wonderful parents who have also lost a child. I have found myself reaching out to strangers to offer my support and friendship. I have found a passion inside me to do everything I can to make the experience of losing a child a little less lonely and stressful. My daughter’s life will not be in vain.
My little girl changed my life... my very being... and even though I long to hold her in my arms, I am grateful for the time I had with her, and for all the lessons she taught me. I'm so lucky to be Babybear's Mommy.
About Me
- Ter
- I am a bereaved mother and wife. I began this blog to help me look for the "good things" in life after my daughter, "Babybear", died in July 2005. Three years later, her daddy, my husband, "Bear", died in November 2008. (You'll find a link to their stories on my blog) And now, as difficult as it is, I continue to look for the good things in my life as I learn my new normal with my pup, "Furrybear", at my side. And the angels on my shoulder...
Monday, November 12, 2007
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When I saw your blog about the writing contest, I knew immediately that you'd write about Tyla.
I briefly considered entering Lilly's story.. but decided against it. It just didn't feel "right" to me this time. *sigh*
You did well with Tyla's story :) Good luck in the contest!
Jo
Thank you for sharing this, having been through a similar thing myself I agree with you that it does change you forever. I'm sorry for your loss, even though it was years ago.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is so great that you are able to write about it and share.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine. I'm just so sorry!
good job w/ the story, it's amazing how through personal stories we feel more connected and that the smallest words of encouragement can help another person who may be going through a similar situation.
Great Job Teri. It is so freeing when we can wight about our losses.
I am touched by the deep love you have for Tyla and how it motivates you to reach out to others. Tyla--like all of our children--has given (and contines to give) your life meaning and purpose. Your story is sad, of course. Yet, it is beautiful, wonderful, and inspiring. Thanks for sharing it!
I am so sorry for your loss and commend you on the bravery that you show by sharing your story. I admire you for trying to help others who have also been through this most difficult time.
I'm so sorry that you lost your daughter. But what a giving person you are, to use the experience to help others. That is truly selfless.
I just love your beautiful thoughts about your sweet little girl - how lovely to think of her as an angel on your shoulder! I think she was very lucky to have you as a mommy too. Thank you for sharing such a personal and touching story.
It is a stinky club to belong to, but I've found that the "club" of people who have lost a child (either by stillbirth, miscarriage, or in infancy) is one of the most loving and sweet.
I know our angels are playing together in a happier place now. :)
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